Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy 
Yes, the phrase "no good deed goes unpunished" has NEVER rung more true than with my xNPD/AH...
He actually screamed at me at one point this weekend that I need to "detach" (his belief is that I am "jealous" he was with his girlfriend and that the kids weren't at all upset by his blowing them off) and then demanded that I remind him of his parenting time.
I just laughed at the absurdity of those statements.
I found through the years with my xNPD that when they accuse you of something, it is how they feel. A friend of mine called my ex a hypocrite and told me about it. Not long after that, I got an email where he called me a hypocrite. They can not accept any negative emotion as their own and need to put it on someone else; thus, he is jealous of you for something.