Hi
my ex was married before and through their court dealings (they had a child together) she made the same claims that I made, his threats/addiction/abuse etc. This was carried on into my relationship with him, because I enabled it. His ex-wife now lives happily in a new relationship, and I`m dealing with the pain of an alcoholic ex...
He will continue his behaviour with enablers, but this isn`t really a way to live for anyone :-)
You cannot change other people`s actions, but you can change yours to make yourself a happier person. Look to the future :-D