Thanks so much for this post.
So many times here I see other chastise those of us who have normal drinking partners who still drink so I stay quiet about mine. So here I am today saying I am another who is married to a normie. Like you, sometimes it completely blows my mind. He's had a 6 pack of beer in the fridge for over a month for crying out loud! A 6 pack! I could down that while getting ready for an evening out. Crazy if you ask me. He has asked me if he should stop so as not to tempt me. My response is always the same. "It's not you who has the problem. It's me."
I realize this doesn't work for everyone but it's fine for us. I'm sure it helps that he drinks things/brands I never would have had an interest in while I drank. But like you, it's not just that. It's that he's not obsessed or living for it or having to drink daily that reminds me this sober path is the only one for me.