Originally Posted by
Florence 
Narcissist parents love young children because they usually adore their parents and want to please them.
Narcissist can’t love but I know what you meant here. They love the power that being a parent gives them. They can continue for years with no checks or accountability. They are not questioned and if they are, the blame is passed to the child. They become the reason the parent acted the way they do. There are always conditions to their love.
Do what they want at all times and they appear to love you. They see you doing all this stuff for them so they must be grand. The minute the child does not fulfill the image then they hate what they see and deflect all those negative images and feelings back to the child.
The pedestal A is the same way. They can appear to love and worship but the second one of their needs are not met or there is a problem and accountability comes into play then the person on the pedestal becomes the scapegoat. You are never knocked off your pedestal. You remain there to either be worshiped when you reflect good and berated if you have done bad.
Of course bad and good are all the interpretation of the A or the narcissist. If they look good, you look good. If they don’t look good, it is all your fault.