Anvil I am sorry you felt trapped and your last marriage didn't work out.
that's the thing Butterfly....there is nothing to feel sorry about! it's not even that it "didn't work out" - it just reached its natural conclusion. hell after I left Mike bought a Goldwing, grew his hair out long, dyed it blonde and got lap band surgery and lost over 100 pounds. met another gal in the rooms and they got married. (wife #4 for him).
I met hank and here we are in our house on the lake with two NOT SO wretched dogs and a couple subarus in the drive!
what seemed like endings was really just new beginnings. life is really just a series of phases.....nothing is permanent - even if we keep those baby teeth, we can never USE them again, as they belong to our past, to another time and place. even our NOW is fleeting - like the sky lit up at sunset, an ever changing shift in the panorama, the vibrant colors, deepening hues, that will eventually fade away.