Lily - I came to SR as a newly recovering addict. I quickly found out I was also a recovering codependent (codie) but that was far harder to handle.
We aren't against you, we are sharing our own ES&H.
I've been you. I watched my stepmom detox from opiates and benzos more times than I can remember. I KNEW she needed professional help, but neither she nor my dad would agree. Legally, I had no say-so.
I woke up, a little more than a year ago, to find my stepmom dead. I tried CPR, but as a former nurse, I knew it was too late. She had a lethal combination of opiates and benzos in her system.
There are many loved ones here who have also found THEIR loved one dead, in their own home.
I'm not saying this to scare you, I'm simply pointing out reality.
He is not reaching out for the help he needs. You have admitted that you are not qualified to be his detox specialist.
His recovery, or lack of, is on him. That is all we are trying to point out.
I lost an XABF to the drug we both shared, but I chose recovery. I lost a stepmom to another drug I abused, but I chose recovery.
Their desire to keep using, despite my sharing how recovery was so great, fell on deaf ears.
Again, no one is against you, we are simply sharing our ES&H, and I admit - at first, it was really hard to hear and I rebelled. It took time to see that people really cared about me, and we do care about you.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy