if we want to build a business... we need a plan, we need actions, we need supporting partners, we need hard work, we need to invest time and energy and resources in our goal.
if we want to be a champion athlete - we need to train. We need to research techniques. We need coaches and trainers and medical staff and physiologists to help guide our biomechanical excellence.
if we want to be great parents, we need a strong relationship, partner, family environment, network of friends, supporting teachers, role models. We need to read about parenting techiniques. We may need counselors, coaches or advice from our peers. We need to put in the time and effort with our kids, every single day.
Even if all we want is a shoveled driveway after a snowstorm - we have to decide to get up off our a**es and do the work to earn the result.
We alcoholics are so talented at wanting and dreaming and beating ourselves up when our lack of action, our lack of a plan, our unwillingness to ask for help, our unwillingness to get off our a**es and get on with the WORK it takes results in the same old cycle of anguish we say we want to be free of.
I tell my kids - you can want in one hand and pee in the other. One of them will fill up first.
It takes real action, real change, real work.
It's all worth it.