No, happy, I think we do agree. My point was that "sharing what we need for support" is something he should be doing for himself, not her doing it for him.
And I one hundred percent agree about not hiding from alcohol, EXCEPT in the very beginning when you don't have any other tools. "Hiding" or avoiding being around drinking, is a very useful strategy in early sobriety. That period of time shouldn't be more than a few months or so, just till you're strong on your feet. But even with solid sobriety, if you are in a bad head space, avoiding alcohol is a smart move. A temporary measure, at best, but if that's what you need at the moment it's what you should do.
I'm six years sober, myself, and I avoided being around drinking in early sobriety. It helped me a lot, I think, not to be exposing myself unnecessarily. I have no problem being around it now, though it can get under my skin if I have to be around it for prolonged periods of time.