Lexie we just disagree. Insensitive? Perhaps but, like I said maybe she is just trying to be supportive by treating him normal. The thing is, if we don't share what we need for support than people are going to do what they always do.
As for the second part. I actually know a woman who spent 20 years staying away from alcohol. Missed out on weddings, funerals, birthdays, everything. She and her husband divorced for other reasons and she went back to drinking. It happens. I asked to try to get a better understanding of what kind of support JB is looking for. How they are functioning, what are their expectations.