Hello flippedrhalo. I am new here and going through the same and need validation also that my Addict husband really does love me. Mine sent a text telling me "he is done" after I kept hoping he would give me an "I love you more than alcohol and will do what I need to so we can be a family". Didn't get that and am as well devastated. Cognitively, I get it, he's sick but my heart is struggling.
Hope you find some serenity soon.