Originally Posted by
myfreedom 
I do have a journal started, it goes back to 2009. We are not divorced and there is no custody agreement in place just a support order.
Then tell him no more unsupervised access to the children. If he wants to fight about it in court then legal aid will have you covered due to his history of abuse.
This can't be about appeasing him or preventing him from being angry or succumbing to a guilt trip from him. It has to be about protecting your children and he is clearly willing to endanger them without a second thought. You are not the one being unreasonable. He is.
Take care of yourself. Take care of your children. He is a grown man and these are the consequences he is incurring.