Originally Posted by
ladyscribbler 
You are both putting your children in the middle of this and effectively making them responsible for the other parent's behavior.
Don't be tempted to tell him anything. Call a lawyer. Protect your children. This is not something you and he are going to settle by going back and forth endlessly playing the alcoholic/codependent blame game.
I do not have money for a lawyer. There is some aide but not much helping in these situations that I know of. I have called around before. And no, we will not settle this on our own because we can't agree on anything.