Originally Posted by
myfreedom 
I asked them why they didn't call me, they know there dad would get irate and no one else was able to. I have told them numerous times not to get in the truck with him. Im tempted to tell him no overnites on weekends if he cant act like an adult.
You are both putting your children in the middle of this and effectively making them responsible for the other parent's behavior.
Don't be tempted to tell him anything. Call a lawyer. Protect your children. This is not something you and he are going to settle by going back and forth endlessly playing the alcoholic/codependent blame game.