A good friend of mine was in a marriage for just over 20 years. she was unhappy and finally separated about 1 year ago. She spent years telling me that she was "not good at relationships" and that "she was not good at sex and didn't like it anyway". Four months ago she met a new man and is in the midst of that rosy glow that comes with a new relationship. She told me yesterday that it turns out she is good at relationships after all and that she has discovered that sex is amazing.
Turns out that she just needed to be in a better space in her own head to let someone in.