I gave the ring back, called off the wedding and prepared myself for the pain that I was about to endure.
Hi FlippedRHalo, wow, I did the exact same thing in 1976 after four trauma-filled years with an addict/alcoholic. Broken promises? Check. Lies, disappointment, abuse? Check. Overdose, drunk driving and wrecked cars? Check, check and check.
Our wedding was six weeks away at the time. He'd been sober for almost a year and then had "a few beers". He did not know I'd set the boundary of ending it if he ever drank and/or got high again.
Even though it was so long ago I still count this decision as the BEST I ever made in my life.
You're doing great. You're very smart to block him. I was sort of in shock for a while but soon enough felt I'd crawled out from under a boulder. I expect you will, too. Hang in there!