FHL4K, I am so thankful to God my son is doing well. A lot of heartache we went through. I did tons of research, education so I understood what I was dealing with. I did not have much support from my husband. But now he has come around. Its hard he cannot live at home but it is the best for him. As he says, "one day at a time". I also have a mentor that has gone through this and has been my backbone when I was wavering on what to do. Research enabling behavior for yourself. As they are your sons you want to "help" but they need to struggle to realize what reality of life is. you can message me if you need to talk.