Originally Posted by
sparrow15 
Hey SR
Do you ever have moments when you wonder if you will love someone again? Trust someome to really love you back and not get bored or walk away cause its too hard .... or quite frankly cause there's always gonna be something better... friends, parties, drugs, new people's to ****. Feels so crappy finding out the person you were talking about getting a house with and looking at wedding rings with was living a double life... and eventually I wasn't worth the hassle
Whenever I think these thoughts I tell myself I'm being silly but the reality is that they sneak up on me everyday.
Also feel like I'm just bound to pick all the wrong people. It's like I preselected for those who are incapable of love.
How do you deal with these negative thoughts and the overwhelming self doubt? Could really use some examples of those who finally let go and found healthy happy relationships. Tips would be wonderful!!
In my own experience, I believe I'm capable of love. But I'm not capable of the trust required to truly experience that kind of emotional intimacy.
To be honest, it doesn't bother me too much. I may be alone, but I'm certainly not lonely. I have a lot of good friends who mean a lot to me, and I nurture those friendships quite a bit.
Romantic relationships are a tremendous amount of work, and at this moment in my life, I don't have the bandwidth to even want to try to have one. I have independence, and I pretty much do what I want, when I want. To give that up is not something I'm interested in doing.
I am very comfortable being unattached. I don't need a romantic relationship in order to feel complete or whole.