Originally Posted by
Butterfly 
Dd struggles with accepting her dad is an A. I kept a lot from them they have no memory of how bad things were when they were younger as they got older they didn't see him binging/ know about him disappearing in the middle of the night and not coming home as I covered always told lies as to where he was. They would have seen him having a few beers but it was always once we all went to bed that he drank until he blacked out.
My daughter has
never seen my STBXAH with a drink in his hand. Isn't that a hoot? She's seen him drunk, but his drinking has taken place either away from the house, or hidden away in other rooms. I could have easily kept his charade up for ever. She would have grown up, moved out, started her own family and never known why her childhood was so disjointed and dysfunctional.
I thought my situation was odd, but now I'm seeing how common it is.