Glad your problem solved itself..
I too ran into a similar problem..I opened my big mouth & allowed a long time friend to move into our basement 2 summers ago to "get on his feet".. it was only supposed to be for 3 months & he was supposed to get a full time job in addition to his pt job & save for his own place/car etc..... he ended up with no job, drinking all day & getting in between me & H (like I didn't have enough problems with H being an A!!) It ended very poorly after 8 months. We were friends for 20 years but now we don't even know if he's alive...
I vowed to never allow myself to make someone elses problem my own... I have enough on my plate already... It's one boundary I've seemed to be able to keep... I no longer volunteer my help to those in need - & boy do we Codies seem to attract those in need!!!!