That's probably a good idea!
The thing was- it was kind of a casual mention, and she just latched onto it, like it was really going to happen and she could NOT wait. Last night, when I first saw her she was so happy!!! She was there!! Even though I warned her it was SIL's decision, not mine. And if I could be SURE it would just be her and her baby, I wouldn't mind it. But the BF.. He would weasel his way in and I don;t trust him. I think he does drugs(I know he at least smokes pot) and does not work, plays mind games with her,etc.(when she was crying the other night, she said he kept her up , yelling at her as she would not give him $20,calling THEIR daughter "her" daughter,) In fact, he reminds me of many of the SOs mentioned on these boards, and I don't want him so close to my home and my children.