Originally Posted by
countrygirl2014 
He is passed out. He can keep his stupid shoes on tonight. I'll sleep in my daughters room with the dog.
I think that's excellent. Don't take care of him when he's hammered. I actually kind of thought that to myself when you helped him last night (but I get it, you care for the man).
I think it's great you gave him a letter....and I'm hoping he reads it when he's sober. Trying to talk to him when he's not will just frustrate the beejeezus out of you.
Focus on your sobriety...and keeping your daughter and yourself safe. I hate to pull up an adage...but the saying "be the change you want in your world" comes to mind.