while you are deciding what to do, please consider starting a quiet fund of extra cash. Squirrel away as much as you safely can every week in a separate account, even if it is $15.00.
$$ isn't the way to happiness, but it will definitely make some of your decisions easier if you are not trapped by not having cash.
the $$ you spent on alcohol yourself is a good start. it sounds like he was completely blacked out...suppose he had your 6 year old in a choke hold? and didn't know what he was doing.
Even if things work out, having an emergency fund that only you have access to is important.