Originally Posted by
dandylion 
Thanks for the response, TerpGal. I can see that you are getting help!
Just keep it up.
The one thing that I would say is: I hope your therapist has specialized training in working with abused individuals. It really does take special expertise.
Please try to rid yourself of the belief that to leave a relationship that is harmful to you is a failure. Quite the contrary---it is a failure to STAY in a situation that is not i n your own best interest--it is a failure to YOURSELF! Don't turn your back on yourself.
dandylion
Yes, my therapist specializes in trauma and addiction. We are going to start EMDR soon, but she doesn't think I am in a "grounded" enough space to begin.