In response to your last comment, Herradura, I think you should consider at least take some time to read up on substance abuse and its affect on the family system. You don't necessarily need to go to counseling to work any of these issues.
Unfortunately, things don't get magically better when we are sober. A lot of hard work is going to need to be done before your relationships with your family get better. Its amazing how much alcohol abuse affects more than just the addict.