Originally Posted by
herradura 
For some reason she needs to say things 5 to 7 times to get it off her chest. I think in the past I had a beer in my hand and just worried about the next one, rather than listening to her 3-7th time complaining.
I think you hit the nail on the head there. You are now having to actually deal with life instead of running away from it by drinking. Consider this possibility - your avoidance of reality by drinking may actually be the reason your wife repeats things multiple times. How do you think you would feel if your wife just decided to pour a glass of wine and ignore you whenever you had something to say?
Perhaps you could sit down and have a discussion about this with your wife? Marriage is about compromise and there will be conflict.