Yes, it's different. My wife did drink a lot and did quit shortly after me so I have only that exp. right now (and a lot of drunk stories but those are no more). I do know that without the booze some of my housemate's behaviors irked me all of a sudden. It waxes and wanes with the days. Thankfully, we are both trying to support each others' sobriety so we have that bond. We definitely had to draw some lines on how to speak to each other and still make snarky comments but usually talk it out now.