Originally Posted by
Lovehurtswaddic 
Wouldnt it be great if we could just be outside looking in and see them how everyone else sees them? Your head gets so messed up when your with an addict that you cant see them for what they really are and how horrible the things are that they do to you
And oh yes he is a major ass. Mean and hateful his family thinks he does no wrong and hes not using again. lol They will soon see because now that he doesnt have us to take his crap out on he will have to have a new target
Once I put some time and distance between myself and the relationship, working a recovery of my own, which includes Alanon, individual therapy and not dating, I started being able to see what other people saw, because I was no longer blinded by the fog (fear, obligation, guilt) of my emotions, confusing love with need or fear of being alone.
His family had to learn a painful lesson after I left as well. They couldn't just take my word for it, they had to experience it for themselves. It's part of the process.