Originally Posted by
xoffender 
Does anyone have an option on whether it's 'healthy' to avoid situations where you would normally drink ?.
It is healthy for YOU. Grab just a little bit of selfishness here. If not attending it the best thing for you, then by all means, do the best thing for you!
Originally Posted by
xoffender Should a sober be able to go anywhere and not be tempted?
It depends on where you are in your recovery AND how the people at the gathering are drinking.
For me, I could sit at dinner with someone that was having a social drink. They have a cocktail or wine with dinner. I feel I would be okay with this.
I cannot sit at a BBQ/Bonfire were most of the people there are drinking alcoholically. Were the main purpose of the gathering is to get drunk.
I can go a restaurant with a bar. I sit in a booth and eat dinner. I can't go to a bar and sit and drink a Coke.
I would not put myself in situations were there is ANY temptation. I don't want to dodge bullets so I stay away from the gun slingers.