I think you need a hug. ((((Jodi)))). Stay strong.
I also think he's right. You are a hard-working, loving, caring and generous woman. You deserve much better that what he is capable of giving. At least he is self- aware enough to recognize and admit that his addiction is taking center stage in his life right now.
Take care. And if you can't make it to a meeting, there are Alanon podcasts available on the website. I listened to them quite a bit back when I was working up the courage to attend a live meeting, and with your hectic schedule and many obligations you might find some help there.