Caring enough about yourself to quit
I think it is essential to have a core sense of self to be able to have the strength to quit. I struggle with this... the foundation that was laid in my childhood still effects me today. Primarily low self esteem. I grew up in a very violent household - physically, mentally and emotionally violent. My coping mechanism was to "disappear" or act as though nothing bothered me and that I needed nothing. So, over the years I have neglected my own needs out of necessity and habit. My counselor asked me what I need and I could not even articulate it. That was a light bulb moment.
I know intellectually that I need to stop drinking, but deep down, I almost feel like I don't care enough about myself to quit. And without that, it makes it very hard to get to that place where you know you MUST quit. Make sense??