Listening is important right now Liz...
So - when you are playing a game of poker, you keep your cards close to your chest. The more he talks, the more you can see what strategy he will use to manipulate both you, your lawyer and the courts.
I kept silent through most of my ex's diatribes, they just fed me information, and that's all I needed. It seemed the less I talked (or argued) the more he needed to fill the vacuum.
I never had to tell anyone how crazy and abusive my ex was.. the more I withheld, the more unglued he became. In the end, I was able to escape a 16 month marriage with a man who had borderline personality disorder with about 13K less in my pocket.
A win win!!
Hang in there...
Lyn