All I can say is keep on keeping on. I have a lifetime of people-pleasing behind me, and yes, it really is behind me at this point.
For me, the breakup of my marriage was the turning point. I knew without a doubt that I needed to get away from AXH, and all of a sudden it was so crystal clear to me that anyone wanting me to reconsider, go to counseling, get back with him -- they did not have my best interests in mind, and therefore, their opinion meant NOTHING.
Remember Dandylion's post from last week? Time and space. It takes time and space to recover. And it's annoying because we want to be able to push a button or accept a thought and be done. But it takes time. Be patient with yourself.