A man in AA once said it beautifully,
"I would have fallen in love with a chair".
That about sums it up.
Unfortunately, I had already fallen for someone with disastrous consequences.
I suggest you leave this alone.
It is not healthy.
He is trying to do the right thing, but you are both attracted to each other.
You have no idea what you are getting into.
Please listen to the people here.
Why are you so determined to get involved with him?
What is your relationship history before him?
This is not meant to be critical.
Another question, would you feel comfortable telling your friends or family about this?
If not, stop.
Any relationship that is not comfortable to talk about is probably not good.
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