Originally Posted by
ru12 
I'm not a member of AA. I was at an open meeting. See the problem now?
Okay, but if you self-identify and don't want to drink, how is it that people would know you don't consider yourself a "member"?
I would think by going to meetings as an alcoholic you would understand that people would consider you a member - since the only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking.
I believe you are seriously over-thinking this. If you don't want to be part of AA, don't go to meetings.