Wow, what a wonderful thread, full of experience, strength and hope.
I am in recovery for alcoholism, with a little over 7 months of sobriety, and my husband still drinks. When I got sober, I thought my life was good, and that it would be the same, only better. Boy was I in for a surprise; like so many people here, the only thing that changed was everything.
Working a program is keeping me sober - and is overhauling my life. Instead of focusing on my relationship with my husband, I focused on myself. I never expected to become discouraged about my husband's drinking, gain weight, ditch old friends, or change careers. But here I am, seven short months into this journey, starting to feel feel joy and peace that I've only dreamed was possible, by making a life that fits me instead of trying to squeeze myself into a life.