Hopeful - Thank you and you made a great point. My mother would not have wanted me to become an alcoholic. And you are right sobriety is a gift. It's just so damn hard to achieve!
I think I saw your X's family in the hospital when I was visiting my mom. LOL. My extended family all live over a 1000 miles away so they were never an issue in the daily care. But, they sure have turned on me since mom died. They aren't as overt as my brother, but they infer and imply that she would have been better had she gone to live with one of them! THEY would have saved her you see. I was selfish for thinking I could assume such a load. They even went as far as buying as buying a burial plot for her at the church she never attended!! And the anger they have towards me includes the fact that I am keeping my mom's cremains. She wanted to be cremated (check), she wanted me to take care of her cremains (check), and she wanted to be with me at the end of her life (check).
I don't understand how people can be so short-sighted, mean and just awful.