Ugh heart core and nuudawn, thanks for listening. It was kind of comical but I have slept. It's now 6 am and I can only say "good" in my mind as I hear him sick in many ways this morning in the bathroom. He doesn't remember a thing.
Funny story: my mom called me yesterday. Her husband drinks a half gallon (no joke) of whiskey a night. He blacks out constantly. She started buying herself flowers and thanks him for them and he honestly believes he buys her flowers once a week. She goes so far as to write herself cards from him to go with the flowers!
You can't help anyone, they have to want to on their own