I settled in my first marriage, even after divorce. I didn't take anything except the kids stuff, so the judge decided I didn't have to pay 50% of a loan he had. It was in my divorcepapers... He didn't pay so they came to me I showed them the courts decision but they didn't care... So I talked to my counselor for advice. She simply said, take your loss, pay it. This happens in a lot of the divorces I see... please Clematis take your loss and you are free of him, It'll take time but you can handle it. It's the only way if you want him out of your life and start over... So I'm still paying. By court order he has to pay childsupport, but he doesn't. So I said to myself, have fun with the money, I'm out I don't have to say please and thank you, and for him... There are no more reasons to contact me or annoy me.... Haven't spoken with him for a bit more than a year, It's hard but the best decision in my life