I am coming at this from a different perspective.
I know a married couple who are AA'ers for over 15 years, and sober the entire time.
I reached out to them to ask their help as part of my call list when I joined AlAnon 6 months ago. I have known them 4 years.
Their availability inconsistencies have me going so crazy, I have decided no contact with them. I told them plainly that I needed to know where I stand with them, and they don't even bother to answer that. Incidentally, I support a recovery ministry they founded to the tune of $100 per month.
I don't know the reasons for their apathy, and cannot afford the emotional energy to fight for them just now.
I would suggest a good step four. If you are lucky enough to have one of your friends level with you, ask them to be brutally honest about why they drove you away.