I was so upset because I agreed to help him because he wanted to help himself.
honestly, he doesn't NEED your HELP to get sober. or stay sober. in fact, as soon as you began to make it EASIER for him....he relapsed. cuz he thought he had done enough.
recovery is a LIFE long process, every day. not here weeks or three months. and there are no "vacations" from recovery - ie when the wife is away.
if you decide you can no longer live the life of active addiction - you are not giving up, you are simply moving yourself to a SAFE place. he may some day GET it....it's up to you how much of your life you are willing to waste tied to someone who can't get their head out of their @ss........