Barney( and my mom) said that I am special, I'm the only one like me.
We are all unique people. We each have our subjective experience of objective reality. We do share some commonalities, we can talk about and relate to others our experience and they will reflect and understand similarities but the experience of our selves is that , our own experience, I could describe to you my feeling but you can not feel it, Clinton was wrong on that one.
I dont think telling someone to 'get over' themselves is helpful. It seems an insurmountable goal and if one fails at that , how can one achieve recovery? if this is a requirement?