My stepfather used to sit on the couch and watch the exercise videos that my mother bought him. She said to me one day...."those videos aren't doing him any good at all".
And, she was serious!! I was so astounded that I couldn't even think of anything to say back...
I don't mean to minimize your pain. It is so hard when they relapse....it dashes our hopes and dreams that include them to the bottom of the ocean floor.....
It emphasizes how little control we have over the alcoholic (zero).
I am sorry for your pain....I do understand how bad it hurts.....I think this would be even harder if you were living together......
dandylion