Frank Sinatra started singing in my head when I read your thread title..."Regrets? I've had a few but then again..."
Mimsy I am so very sorry for your pain. But are you saying you lost your husband/best friend due to drinking and then you sobered and years later you're still stuck in pain?
I know that drinking my way through heartbreak basically prolonged, exacerbated, muddled, confused and well...prevented my heart from healing.
Without question.
I am a bit confused by your post. Please elaborate. Forgive me if I have misunderstood.
Is your sobriety giving you grief..
Or drinking?