Originally Posted by
SoaringSpirits 
Yes. She was with her biological mother until she was 8 but social services had been involved pretty much throughout her life.
And yes to chaos. Mom is severely mentally ill, dad (absent) is an addict.
All definitely contributing factors. Despite the tough start, she's a compassionate, wonderful human being with a lot going for her. But she has some pretty major baggage that no amount of therapy is going to erase.
With her I always walk a fine line because she tends to perceive 'normal' parenting things we do as unfair.
Since she is 19, why not help her out with college and let her figure out her living situation elsewhere? That is both generous and gives her freedom and responsibility.
FYI, my dad helped pay my tuition in college but I have lived on my own since I was 19. I had jobs to supplement income for living.