Originally Posted by
Hammer 
Daughter was in Foster care until 10?
so am I tracking correctly that she was adopted?
And likely from a chaos family, prior (and that was why she was in Foster care?)
Yes. She was with her biological mother until she was 8 but social services had been involved pretty much throughout her life.
And yes to chaos. Mom is severely mentally ill, dad (absent) is an addict.
All definitely contributing factors. Despite the tough start, she's a compassionate, wonderful human being with a lot going for her. But she has some pretty major baggage that no amount of therapy is going to erase.
With her I always walk a fine line because she tends to perceive 'normal' parenting things we do as unfair.