I am learning to accept that I can't do it all or be it all. When I drank I could stop thinking about "it all" and just let it all happen. No stress...until I had gone too far. When it feels good...you just do it. Not a good thing for an additct. Still trying to cope with stress...big and small if there is such a thing. It is difficult since drinking is what I used to cope and escape. Still I am a work in progress.