Hello again. Thank you for listening to me, and offering this wise support. The advice here is deeply valuable; I can tell it comes from a human knowing that can only be reached through personal courage. I feel strength through reading and sharing this. It gives me the same kind of feeling of identity, trust, and self belief that being in a family did, before it was broken many years ago.
Strangely, after I had posted Yesterday, I received another text from my ex which simply said that she genuinely hoped I had a good time away (with a kiss). It was unprompted, and came from nowhere. It felt like I was armed with wisdom to deal with it, as I realise that she is doing this (and I am sure unconsciously) to see if I am still there for emotional support, and possible enablement.
Whilst it feels unnatural not to respond, I am seeing that it is the need for self-preservation in the treatment of myself as an addicted codependent that must take priority. Thank you (Hugs)