i love the way the mind will try to find that loophole or back door - for the addict/alcoholic it might be - so you mean like NO alcohol ever? what about beer? what about a special occasion? or while i'm on vacation? and similarly the codependent will try to find a way to keep contact in NO contact...well shouldn't i at least contact her to tell her i won't be contacting her? shouldn't i reply to his email, after already asking him not to contact me again, and tell him i don't want him to contact me anymore?
just as the alcoholic can't drink just a little, neither can the codependent taste just a little of the object of their affection without wanting to devour them whole.