Redatlanta is right but I'm still struggling with my ex being accountable for his actions too. Not having closure is so painful in many ways. One way that I'm now really struggling with is my part in all of it. How could I fall in love with someone that is too emotional immature to afford me closure? It seems to me that if my ex was truly working the Steps and worried about his recovery as was his reason for our breakup according to him that he would push himself to give me honest closure? I guess the behaviors in the first year of recovery are just like the behaviors when he was using meaning he is still being selfish and hurtful. That really disappoints me as it made me loose faith in recovery and faith in the fact that an addict can really change. From my current vantage point, I don't think addicts ever really change.