Originally Posted by
whalebelow 
"if something happens to you a long time ago and you didn't do anything to deserve it, that is not your fault. If you're still carrying it with you a long time later, that is your fault"
I need to reframe this whole scenario. Sometimes we aren't aware we're carrying stuff from long ago - it's been buried deeply for so long. That is, until something happens which resurrects it, which is what's happening to me at the moment.
And now I have the choice to become aware of it, recognise where it comes from and let it go.
Whoopee!